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We Can’t Be Friends…

Man: “Excuse me miss, can I talk to you for a minute?”

Woman: “Sure.”

Man: “Do you have a man? I find you really attractive and I was  interested in getting to know you better.”

Woman: “I am sorry but currently I am in a relationship right now.”

Man: ” Okay, I do understand that. Can I still get your number, maybe we can keep in contact and still be friends.”

Freeze! This mini skit I just wrote has been heard by myself and witness more times that I can count.Men used this line over and over again because they don’t want to strike out the complete opportunity of having their current “eye candy” completely walk out of their life. Men think that if they used the friend line then eventually if things don’t work out with the woman and her love interest, they can easily slide in and pick up the pieces. Reality check.Men and women can not be just friends. For women if you have male friends you grew up with or they happen to be friends of the family, it seem like that is the only way to have a platonic relationship. But to go out today and meet a guy and don’t want any intimate relationship just company and some laughs, doesn’t seem like it is going to happen. Initially when a man approaches a woman it is an instant attraction. An attraction to be intimate with the woman or to look for a meaningful relationship. Not to be best friends forever.It doesn’t happen. Currently I am not interested in dating right now.I just want a male friend that I can have a bond with like I have with my girlfriends.Having that gender change of scenery is always refreshing because you get to see a different aspect of life and way of thinking.  I know how to the female mind work now I want to learn the males brain. Until a man can get past my looks and just take me as just a friend with no personal gain, then it will always be ladies night out.

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Peter Pan Syndrome

” I don’t want to grow up,” ” I am not going to have kids until I am in my 40’s,” “What is the rush, I am still young,” “I may not be able to have sex with every woman in the world, but I am sure going to try,” ” I have been hurt before and I am just not ready to give my heart away again.” These are the lines I have encountered from men in the last 10 years and I am not even in my thirties yet. I am so tired of men with what I like to call the “Peter Pan Syndrome” where they don’t ever what to grow up and be a man. They rather have meaningless interactions with females (a.k.a. sex) or just do unproductive daily things with their “boys”, i.g. drink, smoke, talk nonsense, booty watch, watch movies and play games. Relationships don’t have the structure or blueprint it once before I was born. When something was broken in a relationship, people wouldn’t throw it away initially, they would work on fixing it. Most men these days are stuck in the “Peter Pan Syndrome” because it is easy to not be attached and have to actually work through any problems that might arise. I never thought I would be twenty-eight years old and talking about giving about on  the chance on finding a good man. We only have one live to live no matter how cliché that may sound.I don’t understand why a man can’t shake his fear of commitment off. It doesn’t matter if it is a good man or a bad man, they all have this fear of being with one woman and being faithful to one woman. If you find a good man who is willing to settle down, make sure you do your part to keep him. The men that want someone to share their life with is becoming just as scarce as teenager girls actually waiting to have a baby past the eleventh grade.

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Book Cover vs The Chapters

“You can never judge a book by its cover.”  What I love most about this quote is the double standard of it personally for me. Yes, it is true you can never judge a person from the outside without knowing the inside first. Then on the other side by human nature, we do it anyway. When you look at someone while walking down the street that you find physically interesting or by what people are wearing. I am guilty of it myself when I met this guy recently. I thought he was a player pretty boy type, conceited and flashy. When I finally had the opportunity to hang with him in a different setting I realized that he was sweet, generous, with a great sense of humor and eclectic. He surprised me but in a good way. The “book cover” was just to grab my attention but “the chapters” is what keeps you reading. Will the human race ever stop judging? No, but some will make a conscience effort to modify their ways to sleep better at night. Myself, I live in reality. I will never stop judging because judging is part of our decision-making. People should make a better effort to read past the book cover, you never know the story might be interesting.

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You Matter To Me…..

I think every female wants a man to say, ” you matter to me.” That protection, that comfort, reassurance that you would be the only one that he wants. It is hard to find a man that will be your king. Some men dont want to grow up and accept that we only have one life to live. The importantce of finding a mate that you can spend your days and nights with, since tomorrow isnt promised. Sometimes I can honestly say I have giving up on love and finding someone who only have eyes for me. Then something happens, a look, a compliment or even watching a spontaneous love scene from a movie and hope is somewhat restored.

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